Read here the idea why stress is often a gift, things are not as they should be. The examples are numerous: A customer to buy, but it doesn’t. An employee to be on time, but it doesn’t. (Similarly see: Andi Potamkin). A chef is to better inform, but it doesn’t. If the affected person can be granted and this changes their behavior, there is no problem. A problem arises when these talks have not worked and it still is not as it should be.
So stress-laden thoughts that can cause frustration, anger, rage, despair, or aggression arise. On the site, the MARTE the work can help. This is also the prestigious American Stanford University. Many people invest a lot of time and energy in trying to change things that cannot be changed. Thus, they brace themselves’s biggest energy expenses against the reality. This can be compared to to teach cats barking or the rain to shout that he should stop raining.
Many people can be run from their minds astray and think they can dictate the reality and imagine an ideal level which will never come true. You stick to an ideal. The function of stress is a cause for alarm: you turn you against what is, even though you can’t change it, because it’s not in your power. Take the energy you’re wasting for this pointless resistance and invest it better where it acts\”. If the reality is not to change, it makes no sense to want this change, but it makes sense to change the thoughts about the reality. The performance of the work can be described with a picture: A village is surrounded by dense fog that only a church steeple (analogy for facts and differing views on facts) of several existing can be seen. When the fog clears, the viewer of the village recognizes four or five more steeples (facts and different perspectives on facts) and has a more comprehensive picture of the Village.